Keeping an open mind about Will the Englishman

Hello from the cottage!  We're well into our cocktails here at the ol' family homestead, and conversation is turning to the hockey game.  That's my cue to write a quick post!

As mentioned last week I've been emailing almost daily with a guy who found me on Zoosk.  His name is Will -- he's 37, works in Insurance in some form, and he comes with a bit of baggage.

Will seems really chaming and has a great sense of humour.  He's tall, has a cute, crooked smile, nerdy glasses, and he likes to ski and golf (just like me!) ...but his past kind of intimidates me. 

He has a 16 year old daughter back in England.  She was an 'accident' that happened at a very young age, which I suppose I can't fault him for.  Normally I wouldn't look twice at someone on a dating site who has children, because that's just something I don't feel I'm ready for yet.  It's less scary, in a way, that Will's daughter is nearly grown and across the globe -- it would be much more intimidating, for example, if Will had a small child that he cares for on weekends.

Another piece of baggage Will has is an ex-wife.  Apparently Will had a whirlwind relationship with someone, got married too soon, and then divorced nine months later.  I can't really fault Will for this either, since we've all had bad relationships.  In this day and age, the divorce rate is so high that it's almost impossible to limit your dating pool to the non-divorced, even if you wanted to. 

I can't help but wonder though about Will's judgement.  If his marriage was over in nine months, it stands to reason there were problems from the start of the relationship, so it makes me question what it says about someone if they decide to go ahead with a marriage despite it having problems.  Maybe he's impulsive?  Not very insightful?  Who knows.  I don't know his life.

Anyway, what I'm realizing is that the older I get, the less likely I am to meet someone who doesn't have some sort of baggage -- past marriages, children, whatever it may be.  (I'm probably in the minority as a childless woman who's never been married.)  I'm really trying to keep an open mind and not limit myself -- I don't want to miss an opportunity to meet someone amazing just because I filtered out divorced men and/or those with kids in a dating site search.

So I'm making progress, I think, in my openmindedness.  I'm still a bit intimidated by Will's history, but I'm enjoying our communications so far, and I'm looking forward to meeting him next week for coffee. 

Happy Friday!