High times at Second Cup

Do you guys remember that post I wrote a few weeks ago -- the weird email conversation between me and some guy?  Click here for a refresher.  Well, I met him for coffee on Thursday night.  I can't say I was really excited to meet him, but lately I've been in a dating slump.  It's not like I have a lot of options lately, so when he asked me out, I thought, why not?

If you know me, you know that I hate to sweat, and I go out of my way not to arrive sweaty to a date.  (Usually this means I try to get there early, cool off from the walk, then powder my nose.)  So you know I really must not be interested in someone if I agree to meet him immediately after my Cardio Bootcamp class.  (Yes, I do that now!  And so far I've only come close to puking twice.)

So there I was, sitting at a nearby Second Cup coffee shop, absolutely soaked in sweat but thankfully not smelly.  And in walks my date -- 20 minutes late.  I wasn't impressed.  He grabbed a coffee and sat across from me, but could hardly sit still.  He explained that he was so nervous that he smoked a bit of pot before coming to meet me.  (This was his first time meeting someone from online.)  I told him I completely understood -- which was just me being polite.  I knew from that point on that this was not going to work out.

Last time I tried this I coughed up a lung and then got really paranoid. 

(I'm such an after-school special.)

I did most of the talking because he seemed freaked out.  In retrospect, this might have made things worse.  I went on and on about how I've had a busy week because I'm getting ready to start a new job, blah blah blah.  Maybe I came across like I'm some kind of a big deal, because he seemed to be really intimidated by me.  I don't think I'm that impressive career-wise, but maybe I am compared to someone who has spent the last 10 years in a call centre.  I guess I can't relate to someone who doesn't want to grow with their career and try out different challenges. 

It's probably the lack of career ambition as much as the pot smoking that turns me off.  I don't have an issue with people smoking up on occasion, but it's really a red flag when you need to smoke up to cope with basic social situations. 

So there's another date down the drain.  I guess I did learn something though -- I can't be with a guy who always has the munchies, because when someone suggests eating something yummy, I can't say no!