Friday, 18 November 2011

My Match.com experiences

Hello reader(s)!  (I think I might be up to 3 now!  Awesome!)

Match.com is the most recent site I've joined.  It's only been about 3 days actually.  I guess I should review one of the others first, but I felt totally inspired to write about how much I like this one.  The downside is that it's not free, but the upside is that there are some seriously good looking men on here!

Or is that what they want me to think?  It did seem a bit suspicious that my first 11 matches (that they send daily) were men that could be catalogue models.  Maybe they have a feature that pushes the most popular/handsome men at you first, to get you to register.  If that's the case, I totally got suckered in.  Sigh.

But no regrets!  I'm having fun with it.  This site has an interesting feature that compares your stats side by side with what your ideal date's would be.  For example, I listed my body type as curvy -- a term I prefer to use instead of 'kinda doughy in parts'.  Then on the right-hand side you check off what body types your date would  have.  (I don't care, so left it blank.)  This is really helpful if you want to make it clear you're looking for a non-smoker, say, or someone with a certain level of education.  It doesn't prevent people from emailing you if they don't fit what you're looking for, but it's helpful if you're trying to decide whether or not you want to email someone. 

Which brings me back to the body types thing.  All of those men I mentioned above -- the ones who were hot and successful and probably too good to be true -- they all checked off that they're looking for 'athletic and toned' women or 'slim' women.  Basically, not me.  Seeing that made me hesitant to contact them because I was sure they wouldn't contact me back.  I decided to send a 'Wink' instead of a proper email, because this way the e-rejection seems way less harsh.

Anyway, I've exchanged a few emails with a guy named Kyle whose profile is well-written and who has a great smile.  Or, at least in one picture he does.  In his only other picture he looks like someone snapped a photo of him while he was trying to do long division in his head.  I figure I'll ask him out for coffee next week.  (Kinda hoping he looks more like the first picture!)

My final thoughts: 
1) Has 'curvy' become a euphemism for 'fat' on these sites?  Am I really fooling anyone?
2) Maybe I should post fewer pictures, and only the ones in which I look thin and pretty (ie not my most recent ones)
3) I hope Kyle didn't use his first initial + last name as a user name because if so that is some seriously hard sh*t to pronounce.

2 comments:

  1. Unfortunately, yes, I would say that "curvy" has often become a euphemism for "fat"; nobody wants to say she has "a little extra" or, God forbid, is "full-figured". "Voluptuous" has the same problem, although that's a little advanced for dating-site vocabulary.

    However, I'd encourage you to continue using "curvy," because I think it does describe your body type well. Breasts and hips! What's wrong with that? I've seen a handful of women on OkCupid, for example, that truly are curvy/voluptuous (derived from the Latin "voluptas", meaning "pleasure") in the best possible sense. And if a guy likes that, then that's the best way for him to find you.

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  2. What I didn't like about this website is after I hid my profile (nobody could see it) I was still getting messages "He e-mailed you" or "He is perfect for you. Check his e-mail". The only problem here is that if i want to be able to read e-mails I need to pay. That's why it kind of made me a bit disappointed that they so shamelessly are trying to make me pay!

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