Going into my date tonight I was a bit worried Josh was going to sound like the Crocodile Hunter and I was going to either laugh at his funny accent, or have a hard time understanding it. Thankfully he didn't have that strong an accent -- it was very pleasant actually!
Our conversation had a really great flow, despite one or two awkward jokes -- we both had at least one. They were sort of cute stumbles, not huge upheavals. I really wanted to know more about what the Christian rockstar lifestyle is like, but he didn't get into details.
Christian rock: What they lack in drugs and sex they make up for in PowerPoint graphics.
What I find interesting is that Josh can play guitar and sing backup for thousands of people but he says he'd be too shy to sing in my choir, with 60 other people. (Sorry, Univox, I tried!)
Anyway, Josh said he'd love to go out again, and I agreed we definitely should. He also said he was a bit nervous that I would think him a bit short, and admitted to adding a few inches to his height on his online profile. He's not 6 feet, but more like 5'9 or 5'10 in real life. I had to laugh because all guys do this. (Always subtract about two inches from whatever height a man lists. Just a heads up for all my fellow online daters.) I explained this to Josh and then told him that most women aren't looking for a giant, just someone who remains a bit taller if you have to dance with them in heels -- and I never wear sky-high heels anyway. I think I saw a bit of relief cross his face when I told him I'm between 5'6 and 5'7 and then he did some quick mental math.
That does raise an interesting question though. How important is height in attraction? It seems like something that would be a personal choice. The general trend though, from what I can tell from dating sites, is that men always say they're taller, and tall women frequently take off a few inches. For me, my height preference is more a reflection of how I feel about myself -- the taller the man is, the smaller I feel, and since I'm by no means a small woman, I love that feeling.
So hit up the comments readers... Any thoughts on height as it relates to attraction?
I'm below average height, but I don't feel I want to add 2 inches to my height in online profiles. If a girl considers it a deal-breaker if the guy's not at least 4-5 inches taller than her, then screw it. And if she assumes that all people are going to lie anyways and doesn't consider those that meet her desired height PLUS TWO, then she's either got too many people running after her or an attitude that I wouldn't be able to stand anyways.
ReplyDeleteI'd rather be the guy that's not as short as you thought he'd be, than the one that obviously faked his profile. And filter out girls who are too obsessed about height along the way.
Just had to delete a comment because it used my real name, but someone posted that they love short guys!
ReplyDelete(Could that anonymous commenter and the above anonymous commenter be a potential match?) LOVE IT!
I do pay attention to height. My ex-husband was 6.2 or something like that. And then i was dating a guy was was a little bit shorter than i am with no heels. on It felt weird, let me tell you. I agree with you, a guy who is taller makes you feel more secure, protected. Some people say that paying attention to height is shallow. Well, i'm sure they have other issues that i find unimportant.
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