Lunch break! Time for another post! This one is going to be about Scott. The long and the short of it is, I can't figure out what he wants with me. He comes out of nowhere (like a bike messenger on Queen Street) and then we always talk on the phone for at least an hour. He's flirty, he's funny, he alludes to things we should do sometime in the near future, and then he goes AWOL. It could be days, maybe weeks, until I hear from him again.
If I wasn't so smitten with him, I would have written him off a long time ago. He's just so charming! Other pluses in the Scott column include: he's corporate by day, but musician by night (like me!), he comes from a WASPy background of skiing and golf holidays (like me!), and from what I've seen of his pictures, the man is gorgeous. This is why I give him way more chances than I should.
Here's what I can't figure out. What is this guy getting from our conversations? He's laying all the ground work for being boyfriend material, and then just not following through on anything. A few weeks ago we were supposed to meet for a drink after work. (I wore like 6 pairs of Spanx that day and even did my hair in hot rollers -- I looked GOOD.) Then he just didn't call. We had actual plans, and he still couldn't be bothered to call and cancel! What a waste of a really good hair day.
After that I deleted his number so I could never be tempted to text him again. That was a few weeks ago. This past Sunday night though, he called me. I yelled at him for standing me up and he apologized profusely. I totally just bought it and forgave him and carried on like it didn't happen. The man is like crack!
I don't know what I'm doing. The smart thing would probably be to sever all ties. But I can't, because of the chance that something could happen. So how to proceed? I'm trying not to do any texting or calling first. If he wants to talk to me, he can initiate it. Meanwhile, I'll try to distract myself...
Date with Kyle tomorrow! (He's the one from Match.com with what I suspect is an unpronounceable last name -- the guy with one great photo, and one in which he looks like someone asked him the square root of Eleventy.) Stay tuned!
"I'm trying not to do any texting or calling first. If he wants to talk to me, he can initiate it."
ReplyDeleteThere's your problem. Stop beating around the bush, get him on the phone, and say "Look, I'm interested in you, but it bothers me how you keep disappearing. What's going on?" And base your decision on his answer - NOT on speculation.
Agree! You were the one who told me not to be afraid to initiate. Find out what his intentions are by asking him upfront. Otherwise, it's never gonna end!
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I dated this guy! Only his name was James, not Scott. He was a big fan of the no-show-and-apology. The short answer for his behaviour: he had no respect for me or my time. Major red flag! James, like Scott, was also very good looking and I've realized that no matter how good looking a man is, there is a woman out there who was tried of his s*** and that's why he's single now.
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